“Boomers on a Bender” – Older Adults & Harmful Alcohol Use

Boomers on a BenderBoomers on a Bender is the cover story in the May/June 2017 issue of Today’s Geriatric Medicine magazine that reports on the dramatic increases in harmful alcohol use by older adults. Aimed at medical providers, the article details the alarming increase in both binge drinking and alcohol use disorders (AUD) among adults aged 65 and older. Doctors are urged to screen and identify unhealthy alcohol use by their older patients and to discuss the risks of continued use and the options available to stop drinking for those with the problem.

The Council on Recovery wholeheartedly agrees.

However, as access to and delivery of medical care has become more challenging than ever, screening for AUD in older patients remains infrequent, according to studies cited in the article. While physicians continue to face a myriad of difficult issues related to managing medical care, Continue reading ““Boomers on a Bender” – Older Adults & Harmful Alcohol Use”

The Lifelong Quest For Sobriety…The Ultimate Hero’s Journey—Part 10

Guest Blogger and long-time Council friend, Bob W. presents Part 10 of a series dealing with Alcoholism and Addiction from a Mystical, Mythological Perspective, reflecting Bob’s scholarly work as a Ph.D. in mythological studies.

In the great J.R. R. Tolkien story of The Lord of the Rings, the Hobbit, Frodo Baggins, is given the task of destroying the One Ring that brings enormous, invincible power to anyone who wears it. A Dark Lord, Sauron, who originally forged it, is trying to re-capture it to complete his takeover of the known world, called Middle Earth in the story.  It is in the Council of Elrond where it is decided that the One Ring must be destroyed by throwing it into the fires of Mount Doom and it is Frodo who accepts the mission.  The other attendees of the Council, princes of different parts of Middle Earth, form a Fellowship pledging themselves to protect Frodo in his mission. The central story of Tolkien’s trilogy, then, is the working of the Fellowship of the Ring, through enormous struggles, to facilitate Frodo’s completion of this task.

The story can easily be read as the One Ring being the curse of alcoholism and addiction. While there is no one sufferer of such a disease in the story, Frodo and the Fellowship supporting him pursue a series of journeys very much like our own in the pursuit of Sobriety.  They encounter incredible hardships and battles trying to gain the ultimate advantage over the evil of the disease.

The powers of the One Ring are strong and at various times they almost tempt Frodo and members of the Fellowship to fall under its spell and relinquish the Journey.  As the story builds, its power to corrupt builds as well and the agony of the Journey resonates more and more loudly with the ideas of addiction recovery.  But Frodo, with the support of the Fellowship, as our Fellowship supports us, is successful and peace returns to Middle Earth, the ending conveying a wonderful sense of serenity for all, a sense of serenity not unlike the feelings that surround us when we begin to bask in the glow of Recovery.

The closing scenes of the final episode in the Trilogy convey the sense of serenity and joy that has returned to Middle Earth…echoing the serenity, strength, and hope that can overwhelm us as we feel that glow…

The Council on Recovery Receives Google Ad Grants Award

 

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The Council on Recovery is a recipient of a Google Ad Grants award. The Google Ad Grants program supports registered nonprofit organizations that share Google’s philosophy of community service to help the world in areas such as science and technology, education, global public health, the environment, youth advocacy, and the arts. Google Ad Grants is an in-kind advertising program that awards free online advertising to nonprofits via Google AdWords.

The Lifelong Quest For Sobriety…The Ultimate Hero’s Journey – Part 9

 

Guest Blogger and long-time Council friend, Bob W. presents Part 9 of a series dealing with Alcoholism and Addiction from a Mystical, Mythological Perspective, reflecting Bob’s scholarly work as a Ph.D. in mythological studies.

The incidence of war in the human experience is enormous; it has been estimated that, in the 5,600 years of recorded human history, there have been 14,300 definable wars.  In our modern times, the wars of WWI, WWII, Korea, Vietnam, the Balkans, Iraq and Afghanistan and their aftermaths occupy much of the period of the last 100 years. Wars affect everyone, not just the participants, but their families and larger communities as well, in many subtle and powerful ways. Continue reading “The Lifelong Quest For Sobriety…The Ultimate Hero’s Journey – Part 9”

Drug-Impaired Driving: Report Reveals Shocking Stats on Growing Problem

Drug-Impaired Driving Report

Drug-impaired driving has become an increasingly critical issue for states and state highway safety offices. According to a newly updated report from the Governors Highway Safety Association (GHSA), in 2015, drugs were present in 43% of the fatally-injured drivers, more frequently than alcohol was present. Increasing use of marijuana as a result of decriminalization in many states has contributed to the spike in drug-impaired driving and more than 80 commonly prescribed drugs have been linked to traffic fatalities across the nation.

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The Mathematics of Codependency (1+1=1)

codepdenencyWould you go to any length or tolerate almost any behavior in order to hold on to your current relationship? Do you fear abandonment? Do you find yourself making lots of sacrifices for another’s happiness but don’t get much in return. If you answered yes to these questions, you may be displaying signs of codependency.

Codependency is a behavioral and emotional condition affecting a person’s ability to have a healthy and mutually-satisfying relationship. Codependents often form and maintain relationships involving neediness and control rather and respect and love.

Caretakers and Takers

Codependent relationships are comprised of “caretakers” and “takers”.  Caretakers often give up their own wants and needs in order to satisfy their partner, children, etc. They live through and for others for the sole purpose of receiving love and validation in return, not in the interest of giving itself. Often caretakers find themselves in physically and emotionally abusive relationships, due to their inability to say no and their belief that if they love enough or are good enough they can and will eventually change the other person.

On the other hand, takers have an extreme desire to control people around them. Takers attempt to control the amount of attention, approval, or love received from others with criticism, guilt, anger, neediness, intrusive touch, emotional drama, or continuous talking. When these two types of people meet and form relationships, the dynamics are typically unhealthy.

Signs and Characteristics of Codependency

  • Unhealthy dependence on relationships
  • Issues with setting healthy boundaries or problems with intimacy
  • A strong desire to control others
  • Guilt when asserting yourself
  • An extreme need for recognition or approval
  • Continuous anger
  • Dishonesty/lies
  • Lack of communication
  • Trouble making decisions
  • Lack of trust in others/self

You Identified With These Signs: What is the Next Step?

The first step in breaking a cycle of codependency is to acknowledge and recognize the problem. A better understanding of codependency can be gained through many written and online resources, including landmark self-help books, such as, Codependent No More by Melody Beattie. If you want help for your codependency there are a variety of effective counseling and therapeutic approaches, as well as, 12-step groups that focus on a mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual solutions to the problem. Regardless of which avenue you choose, it is important you begin your journey to healing and healthy relationships.

The Council on Recovery is often the starting place for individuals seeking help with codependency, as well as other addictions and co-occurring mental health disorders. Help is available for all family members. Call 713.942.4100 or visit www.councilonrecovery.org

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