As the holidays approach, a time usually filled with joy and celebration, it can also spark a range of emotions, especially for families navigating the complexities of recovery. Whether it’s a loved one overcoming addiction, managing mental health challenges, or healing from a significant life change, the holiday season can present unique hurdles.
In this blog post, we will share meaningful ways to support family and friends during this time, ensuring that the spirit of love and togetherness is still felt while creating an environment conducive to healing and growth.
Keep expectations realistic
Acknowledge that the holidays may look different, especially when celebrating with someone in early recovery, but different isn’t bad. You may need to adjust plans or skip some of your usual activities to be mindful of their needs. This transition may be hard for everyone, but it is important to help them (and yourself) realize the holidays can still be enjoyable.
Express your support
Your loved one may be especially vulnerable during this time. Ask them, “What do you need from me to feel supported during this time?” Offer empathy, compassion, and positive communication. It is important to be mindful of their sobriety, but avoid making a show out of catering to them. Remember that connection is important.
Be open
Be open to hearing about triggers and cravings. Talking about them does not mean they will lead anywhere. Not talking about them is riskier.
Strategize an exit plan
Help your loved one create an exit plan for potentially triggering situations – let them know they have an “out” with you. Reassure them that you will support their choices, even if others are uncomfortable with the changes. Try to give grace and understanding if the recovering person misses an event or has to leave early.
Find support for yourself
Recovery is hard for families and friends too, so have a trusted person or two that you can lean on. The Council is also ready to support and guide you, even if your loved one is not seeking help here, through group meetings and more. Give us a call at 713.942.4100 or visit our website at any time. We invite you to join us on January 11 for the Wayfinders workshop to learn therapy-based skills about navigating a loved one’s addiction while also caring for yourself.